Understand you can do anything but not everything...at least not with total purpose

When it comes to making life choices there are a number of unconscious and conscious forces at play. We can talk about genetics, behavourisms due to your upbringing and social circle and even your specific cognitive traits. These forces will produce needs, motivations, drives and goals. When it comes to making a choice in life about what you want to do it is common, at an early stage, to list a large number of options and wishes. However only later do you begin to realize that though you would love to do everything listed, inherent skills and time and even place in life will impact the success you will have in achieving those goals.

Humans all say a lot of things without really knowing what they are saying because they don't take the time to think about what they are saying. However language and thoughts most definitely influence behaviour so this isn't to be taken lightly. If you say you want to achieve 10 things in a year and you achieve one there will be a level of disappointment along with stress, anger, frustration and anxiety depending on your individual personality. Therefore it is better to think and realize that though you have the capabilities to achieve a lot it is better to focus on only a few at a time to ensure success.

In this goal driven world we live in goals are a normal part of everyday life. But what's the point in having goals if we have no time to undertake the actions necessary to achieve them. Why complete two of 20 goals in a year when you know that simply by living your life that year that you will have another 20 for the year after. Goals and dreams are the life-blood of humanity but unless they are achieved the human psyche will perceive weakness and failure rather than the realization they never had the resources to achieve all stated goals.

The secret is to do the work, make the effort to understand your true needs, motivations and goals and focus on achieving those few most important at any point in time - then move on to the next lot. Achieving five from five each year, rather than 10 from 20, will boost self esteem, increase confidence and reduce negative emotions. But the first step is to remember it's about quality not quantity when it comes to achievement.

What you do, not just your thoughts, makes a destiny

If all that we achieved in life was based on thoughts only then let me say the level of success and achievement would be mind blowing. Fortunately or unfortunately just by having thoughts, wishes or dreams doesn't go anywhere need what needs to be done in order to realize them.

I read quite an, surprisingly, enlightened article in last month's UK GQ magazine in relation to self-help, motivational books etc. relating to wealth creation, great relationships, perfect careers etc. What is basically said, and I have to agree from personal experience, is that what us human's are open to is informational overload and a lot of what you read, or hear just cannot be used by us. So the fact that we have all these thoughts and dreams mean nothing if we cannot act on them. In fact it could lead to greater frustration and stress if you dream of all these goals and you don't achieve 95% of them. Not because you cannot but because you are short of one critical resource - being time.

Therefore you have to be quite dedicated and specific in what you actually act on in your life. What you read, who you socialize with, what you do for work, for fun will all impact the achievements you make in life. Focus on the actions you do take - it is easy for us to have big dreams but not change our habits. This is common for 95% of self help seminar participants. Rather keep it simple and specific so you can ensure your actions mirror your thoughts and can be achieved through this focus.